Thursday, April 30, 2009

Learning to Live Financially Free Blog Tour



For all of us who have ever struggled financially...and by that...I mean most of us- settle in for an encouraging read and embrace the financial future with a better outlook, strengthened relationships and the knowledge to make better choices in the future.

About the Book:

(North Carolina) - The fear and reality of tough economic times, foreclosures, bailouts, bankruptcies and falling stocks strike fear in the hearts of many Americans today. With investors, newscasters and bankers giving advice, who can you trust? Marybeth and Curt Whalen share their financial successes and failures in their new book, Learning to Live Financially Free: Hard-Earned Wisdom for Saving Your Marriage & Your Money. If a family parenting six children can get out of debt and live financially free, anyone can. The Whalens readily admit they made their share of mistakes the first ten years of marriage. Becoming more disciplined and intentional in spending and saving helped them learn valuable lessons for better financial stewardship--lessons you'll want to learn too.

Learning to Live Financially Free not only focuses on building a stronger financial understanding in the home, but also encourages couples to communicate, thus building better, stronger marriages. The Whalens clearly comprehend the need for careful money management and commitment in marriage. Money-strapped families will find peace of mind as they begin the process of becoming financially responsible and debt-free.

About the Authors

Marybeth Whalen is a speaker and contributing writer for Proverbs 31 Ministries. The author of For the Write Reason, Marybeth has also written for Parent Life, Money Matters newsletter, The Old Schoolhouse, Hearts at Home magazine, and Homeschooling Today. She contributes regularly to the daily online devotions of Proverbs 31 Ministries.

Curt Whalen is a trained financial counselor through Crown Financial Concepts. He has years of experience helping couples establish budgets, solve financial problems, and learn to communicate more effectively. He has written articles for TEACH Magazine and Money Matters Newsletter and has contributed to books by authors Lysa TerKeurst and Melanie Chitwood.


Are You A Financially Focused Couple?

Instructions: Give yourself 1 point for every "yes" answer, 0 points for every "no."

1.Do you have regular budget meetings?
2.Do you communicate about daily expenses?
3.Do you discuss large purchases before they're made?
4.Does each spouse have an equal vote about money decisions?
5.Have you planned for your future through life insurance and a will?
6.Do you agree about tithing and giving?
7.Can you both list out your debts, including the amounts and monthly payment for each account?
8.Do you have a plan that was written together for paying off debt and saving money?
9.Do you encourage each other to save money?
10.Have you discussed the spending habits and attitudes about money that you carried into the marriage?

Tally up your score and use the guide bleow to see what category you fall into.

0-2 points: Don't get discouraged. There's nowhere to go from here except up!
3-5 points: You are taking steps towards being a financially focused couple.. Keep working together and you will get there.
6-8 points: You are almost 100% financially focused. Keep up the good work and get intentional about those trouble spots.
9-10 points: You are a financially focused couple and could show us all a thing or two! Consider sharing your wisdom with other couples who are struggling in today's uncertain times.

Top Ten Tips For Saving Money In Tough Times

1. Make a budget (and stick to it). A budget overwhelms many people but it is really nothing more than devising a plan for every dollar you bring in. Having a budget helps you spend smarter and think more. It also helps to improve your buying power. The best way to make a budget is to start by sitting down with your spouse and deciding how much you spend on regular categories like groceries, gas, medical, etc. each month. Talk through these things and get them down on paper. Then spend accordingly. An article that goes into step by step detail about making a budget can be found at:

http://www.christianpf.com/how-to-make-a-budget/

2. Stop using credit cards. Studies show that people who use credit cards buy more and think less about their purchases. By learning to spend cash and limiting your purchases, you make your money work for you rather than against you. Credit card companies are getting craftier as the economy struggles. 25% of all credit card users in this country will have their rates raised this year, or their monthly payment raised. When you are in debt, you are at the mercy of the company you owe. Don’t let yourself get bogged down by credit card debt.

3. Cook at home. It sounds so basic and yet how many of us resort to eating out because we just can’t deal with dinner? By taking a few moments once a week to devise a menu plan, shopping for the needed ingredients for that menu plan, and cooking the meals in your home, you can save lots of money and have more time to gather as a family and enjoy a slow evening at home. Eating at home not only saves money, it saves valuable family time.

4. Buy clothes at thrift or consignment stores. This is especially true with children’s clothes. When you are in a department store, always shop the clearance racks and avoid the other racks so you aren’t tempted. It’s also an income generator if you consign your own clothing. You can then take the money you earn on consignment and buy clothes for a new season without being out of pocket any money!

5. If you must eat out, only go to places you have coupons for. Keep a small photo album and arrange restaurant coupons so they are easy to find as you are heading out the door. It’s also a great idea to look for “kids eat free” nights and frequent those. Other ways to save on eating out include ordering water (big savings on this), share meals, order a kids’ portion if the restaurant allows it, and go out for lunch instead of dinner. For people who work, it’s always a good idea to pack your lunch regularly instead of running out to eat. A jar of peanut butter and a loaf of bread will go a long way.

6. Learn to play the coupon game. Many people devote themselves to clipping and organizing coupons—and reap great savings from doing so. There are many frugal websites and blogs that detail exactly how to save a lot of money with coupons. A great one to start with is http://www.couponmom.com/. And here is a great tutorial video you can watch: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DcAUZvGS6L8.

7. If you have children, limit the number of activities they do to one per child, per year. If you are struggling to pay for even one activity, consider asking for the activity as a gift from grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends, etc. Instead of another toy that will end up broken or lost, your child can receive a gift that truly keeps on giving as well as one that invests in their future.

8. Think about the things you regularly spend money on like gas or utilities and research ways to save money on those things. For instance, http://www.gasbuddy.com/ tells you where to buy the cheapest gas according to your area code. Bundling services with your cable provider can save money each month. Calling your energy company to find out when their off-peak hours are and doing your laundry or dishes during those times can save on your monthly bill as well.

9. Don’t shop as a recreational activity. If you can’t see it, you won’t feel a need to have it. Use time you used to spend shopping to go for a walk, visit a park, exercise, read a book, or spend time researching money-saving sites on the internet! If you have a friend you used to enjoy shopping with, sit down and list out other alternatives for your time together.

10. Look for ways to generate additional income. Whether it be an additional part-time job or a way to make money from home using a skill or talent you possess, get creative, get motivated, and get excited about the potential you have to generate income that you didn’t have before. Every little bit helps, so put on your thinking cap and don’t be shy about stepping out and trying something!

Thankful Thursday

Thankful Thursday at Truth 4 the Journey

It's Thankful Thursday over at Truth for the Journey Please be sure to leave a comment below and tell me what you are thankful for:

1. A good week of accomplishing little projects around the house. They make such a big difference.

2. For a surprise financial gift that helped meet some of our home improvement needs.

3. I am headed to Georgia on Friday....HELLO MOMMA!!!!...and the rest of the fam/clan

4. Feeling better- I was sick over the weekend. It was horrible. I still am not 100 percent but sooo much better.

5. Unbelievable kindness from near strangers tonight. It really is amazing how kind people can still be!

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

House for Sale



This is the house we currently own...and as of today....are officially selling. The sign is in the yard and another one is at the end of the street. There's no turning back now.

The reason I posted the pic is because I would like for you to pray that this house sells quickly. I am not worried. God knows just the right family for this home and I can't wait to meet them. Hopefully the pic will help you remember! Thanks!

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Mr. Clean Is My Hero

I have had a housekeeper for most of the last two years. I guess I am a little spoiled. It is a luxury I have afforded myself (since I DO work) like other women might get their nails done or people pay to get their yard done or a deer lease (I know...if you are a guy and are reading this you might disagree that a deer lease is a luxury...to most men I know they think it's a necessity for survival). Anyway, Wendy has been super and I love her, and I don't ever want her to go away....but in light of our recent job switch, Wendy and I have talked...and her days are numbered. She won't be coming to my house to clean toilets too many more times. I'm sad. It's been more than just cleaning. It's been catching up, counseling, crying, laughing until we cried, comforting, fun, hard work. I will miss our weekly "meetings". (However -she did mention I wasn't getting rid of her that easily)

BUT, I have found a replacement for her. Well, not really, but let me continue. As I was deep cleaning (washing walls and baseboards) in my kid's rooms. I noticed some creative artwork....ON THE WALLS and ON THE BACK OF THEIR DOORS, that I had not seen before. At first I panicked. Was I going to have to repaint. What exactly did they use to create this masterpiece...is it crayon, marker, colored pencil, paint, smashed vegetables, bodily fluids? So, I sent Bruce to the DG (Dollar General) to pick up the miracle worker- MR. CLEAN. Have you met him?

There he was. His arms crossed on the front of the box. His muscles buldging from beneath the white t-shirt. He looks like he can get the job done. I followed the directions on the box- wet, ring and wash. Do you know that Magic Erase Mr. Clean Sponge did the trick. It took every bit of the artwork off the walls and doors. I am so thrilled....I gave Mr. Clean a hi-5 on the box as I tossed him in the trash. He's my new best friend, hero, boyfriend.

For a free sample go to this link.

Monday, April 27, 2009

Police!

Bruce is out with the police. It's the third time in a week. They call him. Ask him to ride with them. He comes to me, with the excitement of a child when they know their birthday is tomorrow, and asks "Would it be ok for me to go ridin' with so-n-so" and I say yes....everytime. (Like I tell him what to do anyway!)

It's been going on for months. He loves it. He loves riding with the officer, getting to know them, their lives, their family, their fears, dreams and prayers. He loves the Adrenalin rush of a speeding ticket and the comedy of seeing a church member get pulled over for a busted tail light (and yes...Bruce helped talk the officer out of giving him a ticket!)

Most of all I like it because it enables him to talk to men who are under an incredible amount of stress (yes, even in a small town) and he gets to encourage them, pray for them and help keep them awake during those late night hours. It's one of the things he is really good at- Being a friend to his neighbor.

Sunday, April 26, 2009

Hungry...for Gray's Papaya...NYC


A friend of ours has been in NYC this week on business. When I heard he was going I told him he HAD to eat at Gray's Papaya Hotdog Stand.

Gray's has been in the background of more than a few movies. Seems you can't see a movie about NYC streets and not see the Gray's sign.

Here's what Wikipedia says about Gray's:

Gray's Papaya is a hot dog restaurant with four locations on the West Side of Manhattan, open 24 hours a day year-round. The four locations of Gray's Papaya in Manhattan are: 539 Eighth Avenue at 37th Street, 402 Sixth Avenue at 8th Street, 2090Broadway at 72nd Street, and their flagship location 116 Waverly Place where founder and owner Damien Reilley started the hot dog empire. Somewhere between a street vendor and a fast food restaurant, Gray's Papaya is famous for its very inexpensive, high-quality hot dogs. The "papaya" in the name refers to the fruit drinks sold at the establishment, which include orange, grape, piƱa colada, coconut champagne (non-alcoholic), and banana daiquiri (non-alcoholic) in addition to papaya. As of October 2008, the "Recession Special", (2 hot dogs and a drink) is US$4.45 instead of the previous cost of US$3.50 [1] and a single hot dog is US$1.50, with tax included.

Since I mentioned it, I have been craving one of these dogs. I mean seriously craving!!! Sure hope he made it there, then at least he can tell me about it!

Ever in NYC? Eat at Grays!....and then tell me about it!

Potentially Dangerous

I've been trying to sort out just what God might be trying to teach me during this time of transition. Stepping out by faith is taking on a whole new meaning for us. In the past when Bruce and I have ventured out...it's just been us. This time, add a couple of crazy kids and a ton of toys and stepping out takes on a different look.

Currently, job offers are coming in for Bruce, which in and of itself is a miracle in this economy. God has definitely showed Himself in that area. We are headed to Atlanta to see my family next week and I can hardly wait. Seems like forever since I was in the Peanut State!

Total surrender is something I am wrestling with daily. I "think" I am totally surrendered and then I find myself arguing with God about how things should be. It's that spiritual warfare thing that makes this a bit difficult. I really just need to slow down and allow God to take care of all the details...big and small. He's gotten us this far...why do I question the path ahead!?!

I was thinking if (when) we sell our house that we are potentially a very dangerous family. Willing to go anywhere, do anything. Pretty scary. Pretty exciting. Pretty much right where I want to be.